If your partner has abused you physically or emotionally, he or she may try to make light of the violence or even justify it by blaming you a little. That person may also say that he or she is sorry for what happened and begin to treat you wonderfully. Many couples have a happy, peaceful making up period involving apologies, gifts and promises to change after an episode of violence. However, it is important to know that this peaceful "honeymoon phase" is part of a cycle that also includes a "tension-building phase" involving more verbal and mental abuse, which then leads to more violence. This cycle of tension-building, violence and making up repeats itself over and over again while, over time, the violence becomes increasingly worse.
The longer you stay in this cycle, the harder it can be to leave the relationship. But, there is hope. When you are finally ready, there are people who can help you leave an abusive relationship safely. It's not too late - and you deserve better.
You are in danger while in the presence of a person who has abused you. Having abused you once, s/he will likely do it again. Just as you would plan for safety and escape in case of fire, you should plan for safety and escape in the event of a violent episode.